And The Winner for Most Hypocritical Goes To…..

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The “Hypocrisy” Awards (a.k.a., The Oscars) will be broadcast on Sunday. We will again get to see the height of Hypocrisy as talented men and women will make statements about moral superiority, political division, social and economic inequality, along with preaching about the climate. They will begin by arriving in lines of gas-powered limousines (not electric and certainly not by carpooling). They will be recognized for a performance while not mentioning their history of work that includes movies that glorify gun violence, adultery, pre-marital sex, wars, and in some cases more disgusting and disturbing actions. They will stay silent about the years of “pretending to not know” about the likes of a Harvey Weinstein and others that have engaged in the “casting couch” mentality that has engulfed Hollywood since its inception, but for many it was easier to not say anything if it didn’t affect them personally for fear of not getting that next big role or not being invited to the “party” of those with influence. They will talk about “income inequality” while making millions of dollars yet most of the cast and crew of their productions just make a living and probably don’t own mansions or thousands in clothes, jewelry and toys. We will hear comments from those who criticize others while not only promoting immortality with their movies but also through their own lives and personal actions. The majority in attendance will be quick to squirm in their seats if they are called out for their hypocrisy but feel perfectly justifiable to criticize and joke about those who think differently. The saddest part of the whole evening will be the loudest voices, the ones with the most camera time, the most opportunity to influence the public, and the most recognizable names, will use their time to show off their huge ego instead of humility, kindness, and respect for everyone, not just those who agree with them. And the Oscar goes to ….


“Charlie Hustle” Never Cheated!


Every time a new baseball controversy comes up, the argument about reinstating Pete Rose resurfaces. The Astros’ sign stealing is no different. The reason for this is simple. Pete Rose broke a rule and is banned for life. Others broke rules before him and certainly after, and still do today, but are eligible to play and enter the Hall of Fame. Each new event shows why there is No Valid reason why his ban should not be lifted, and eligibility reinstated. Even more important, he should be allowed to be a part of the game. We need players to be like Pete, we need coaches to encourage players to be like Pete, and we need young kids to learn the game the way Pete played. If there was a “test” for gambling Pete Rose would have failed it, would have been suspended and probably back on the field after 40 games running out an infield hit or diving headfirst into second for a double. Yes, many argue it would be nice to end the hypocrisy and let this baseball legend have his due while he is still alive, but it is also about people like me, now in my 50’s, who grew up learning to love the game of baseball because of players like Pete Rose. To this day I will watch, listen, check the scores etc. of any game I can. Some of the greatest memories of being a dad was watching my son put on his little league uniform and enjoy the game. Rose bet for his team to win, he was wrong, that was and still is a rule. He lied. That was wrong. However, he never bet against his team. There is No asterisk next to any of his records or accomplishments. He never was artificially stronger, faster, or used any other illegal advantage to help his team win or pad his stats. He hustled, he practiced, and he worked hard. On the field, Pete Rose was what baseball should be and selfishly I would like to see those that made me love the game be honored and leave the legacy so others can learn how to play the game the way it was meant to be played.


Impeachment Should Not Be Partisan!


Since 1/2 the country seems split on impeachment, it certainly is partisan, and that is the one thing the Founding Father’s did not want and one thing ALL the witnesses agreed with. We all heard the same testimony and saw what evidence was presented. 1/2 the country has a different conclusion. Our country is based on a “jury of peers” so to speak. In this case 1/2 the nation has one thought and 1/2 another. As citizens we need to respect and understand that not everyone in our nation thinks the same way. It is not the fault of the President, not the fault of Congress, but the fault of each of us as citizens, when we can no longer respect and accept that we may look at the same picture and feel differently about it. We have members of Congress, both sides, telling the Nation what Truth is. I can accept that they have opinions but can not accept that they do not acknowledge that others may think differently. GOD Bless America.


A Thanksgiving Thought…

As Thanksgiving approaches many of us will be thinking about the Blessings in our life, as well as reflecting on many memories of the past that had both joy and sorrow. We should try and remember that many events in our life, that at the time may have been sad, stressful, or even painful, were also learning experiences that taught us how to survive this crazy world. None of us have lived a life without hardship. We have all lost loved ones, experienced sadness and a multitude of emotions along the way. God provides us a way to endure all that we face when we put our trust in Him. As we sit at a big table full of people, or just a small gathering, or maybe even a Swanson’s frozen turkey dinner for one in front of the TV, it is a good time to reflect on our life. We will realize that everything we have experienced so far helped create our character, our determination and our decision making. We must also realize that these events DO NOT define us. We all have a past, and we cannot change anything that has already occurred, but we do have control over today and our future. Life is full of speed bumps, roadblocks, and outright demolition events, but how we react and handle them will ultimately offer us the opportunity to have peace and joy. Without any bad we would never appreciate the good, and without sadness it would be hard to experience the joy of happiness. We were all created by a God that loves us, we have also all suffered in various capacities and share each other’s pain.  As God is the Father, and God is the Son and the Holy Spirit works in all of us, we have the ability to focus on who we are, who we want to be, and a peace that comes from an unconditional Love given to us by our Creator. So, make sure to give Thanks for all that we have, but don’t forget to give Thanks for all that is yet to be.


Let the HS Senior year begin…

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Tomorrow is the last of the first day of school as we watch our son begin his Senior year of High School. Even when he attends college in the future it will be different. He has been our responsibility for the past 17 years and has counted on us to show him life, the good and the bad, and up until last year, when he started driving, we at least got him to school or the bus stop. I think about the scared little boy who hid under a desk on the first day of Pre-K and now embarks on the last year of required education. I can say the majority of teachers have been fantastic, many were good and yes, there were some that probably should have chosen a different career, but that is life and no matter what, you have to find a way to overcome obstacles and try to succeed. I think of all the school events, field trips, athletics, band concerts, projects, late night homework and all the other memories that as parents we will cherish forever. We know these 9 months will go fast and we will all be preparing for the next chapter in all our lives. For all those students embarking on this last year of High School, enjoy the ride, cherish the moments, be proud of all of your accomplishments and know that sad days are temporary, that you are never alone, that a grade point, a test score or a class ranking, does not define who you are. Making it to your senior year is a great accomplishment and if you take time to reflect on where you were 10 years ago, 5 years ago, as a freshman, you will see a transition from child to adult and a mind that went from a blank slate to one of opinions and thoughts, and likes and dislikes. For us parents, some of us 30+ years from our High School days, we are proud of this generation. Those currently in High School have been the first generation in which their entirety of their school years had smart phones, social media and many other technology related obstacles that we, as parents, had to learn in order to help navigate through. To each High School Senior, remember how special you are, how incredible God made you and how the world is a better place because you are succeeding in life and all it has to offer. Enjoy this year and challenge yourself. It may be the end of High School but just the beginning of an incredible adult life. To my fellow parents, sit back, take a deep breath, maybe have a glass of wine. We are watching the result of the last 17 years of our child’s life finish a major accomplishment only to be ready for new challenges armed with all we have given them. Whatever the roads we have traveled to see our children become a senior, we are there, and the finish line is in sight…just one more push and next Spring we can all celebrate a milestone. God Bless all the Students, the Teachers, Administrators and my fellow Parents who share this journey…We are in this crazy thing called life together!


How Michigan and Texas Represent America.

As a political party is about to have their 2nd Debate in Detroit I am reminded of the many years I lived in SE Michigan. (Middle School, High School and College) Michiganders, just like those in Texas, where I have called home for the last 25 years, are some of the hardest working, kindest and proud Americans. Just like Texans, the people of Michigan have strong opinions about what they believe but if a neighbor, friend, or co-worker is in need they will give the shirt off their back and sacrifice themselves to help others. I learned a lot from the people in Michigan during my formative years, one being that it does not matter what you do in this world, sitting behind a desk, being on an assembly line, plowing snow, etc. but a hard day’s work, an honest day’s work, and one where you respect others is the best way to live. I have been blessed to live in Michigan as a child through early adulthood and Texas for most of my adult life and although each state has some differences, each are a good representation of the best parts of this great nation. So, if we ignore the typical rhetoric of another political cycle and focus on the best parts of our nation, the people, we can have less anger, less stress and less headaches and continue to thank God for the opportunity to live here.



What Politicians Continue To Get Wrong.


One of the things we constantly hear from politicians, whether on the local, state, or national level, is the idea that they stand for what Americans are concerned with and discuss at their kitchen table. While voters may be concerned with things such as jobs, economy, health care, immigration, education and a slew of other topics, the one item that these politicians omit from speeches and ironically the one item that more Americans have in common than which side of the aisle they may stand is what many will do before they eat their meal, or before they go to bed, or before they leave for work, that is to Pray and acknowledge that there is a GOD. Before I get the push back of the misused argument of “Church and State”, let’s acknowledge that Faith in GOD is not about any particular religion and certainly not about the Government sponsoring a religion, like the “Church of England” or requiring people to worship or even to believe in a higher power. Belief in GOD is a personal choice in the United States as is worshiping with others, whether at a Bible Study, Church, Synagogue or Mosque and whether you believe that GOD exists or not the right to believe and worship is Absolutely Guaranteed in our Constitution.  While ½ the country may differ on how to handle the problems that arise the majority still believe in something bigger than any human being, and especially bigger than any politician. Even most Immigrants that hope to find a better life in the United States believe that there is a GOD. I imagine before they make their journey to our border, they pray about it and ask GOD to guide them. The general omission of how important Faith in GOD is to the citizens of the United States by our politicians is one of the main reasons we have so much anger and malcontent. It is sad that after a tragedy we hear from some the mocking of “Thoughts and Prayers”.  In my opinion, if we had more of our politicians pray before a meeting, before a session of Congress and before an opportunity to speak to others there would not be as much anger and maybe there would be less tragedies.  It is vital to this nation that the acknowledgement of the most common thread of the people of this great nation is not mocked, ridiculed, or omitted but rather embraced and discussed. If we start with the realization that most Americans consider themselves a Child of GOD, and although we may have very different opinions we are united as Brothers and Sisters under the One Who Created Us and for those who do not believe in GOD we are still United Under our Flag and those who fought for All of our Freedoms.


The Example Of College Athletics & What The Media Does Not Show.


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I watched my Alma Mater lose in the Final Four as MSU lost to Texas Tech. The Post-Game news conference and interviews reminded me once again why College Athletics should be the example to both adolescents, and even many professional athletes, in how one should conduct themselves.  Coach Izzo and the Spartan players all acknowledged that the Red Raiders played better, took blame for missing shots, and appreciated that they had a great season and came up short.  There was no finger pointing, accusing others for causing them to lose etc. Even the first game between Auburn and Virginia, which did have some controversial and missed calls at the end, saw the Auburn team talk about their defeat with class and dignity. In victory, both Virginia and Tech were humble and appreciative of their opponents. Given all that, what stood out above everything was what the media didn’t show. At the end of the MSU/Texas Tech game, when the winning coach was finally able to make it back to the locker room to see his players who had been waiting, the announcers wondered just how much celebrating they were going to do given they still had one more game to play. As Coach Beard finally made it in, before any words were spoken, they all gathered in a circle and knelt in prayer. The cameras immediately went to a different shot. The media did not want the public to see what many believe to be more important than a basketball game, more important than a school reaching a final for the first time in their is the Glory to God for all their ability and opportunity. Many teams pray, whether they win or lose, yet ironically there are High Schools around the country that are trying to ban team prayer.  If a player gets hurt it seems to be OK for players to kneel and pray for their well-being and the media will show that but if a team wins or loses and just wants to thank God for the opportunity than that becomes taboo and gets no recognition. If we truly want to see more young athletes grow up to be humble, less arrogant and be the role models that many look up to, then maybe the media needs to show what many college athletes are already doing….If players are acknowledging God for all their success and opportunity then let that be part of the story…faith, hard work and humility can spread just as fast as arrogance and greed.


When Losing To Your Child Turns Out To Be A Blessing.

shadowWhen he was small, we played basketball. The hoop was lowered to 6 feet. I didn’t play defense and purposely didn’t make many shots. When he was a little older, he learned how to shoot, dribble and the rules of the game. As a pre-teen, I would still not block his shots and would let him score when he could, as well as, for him to feel excited about even winning a game now and then. As a young teen he was competitive and really tried to beat Dad. My height and weight advantage still gave me the upper hand, but I didn’t have to “trick” him into thinking I was actually trying. The games were close but still the outcome was predictable. Then he got taller, then he got stronger, then he got quicker and then he got very good. I got older, less stamina and my speed seemed to disappear as quickly as my larger waist appeared. Now at almost 17, he is kind to me…lets me score a few and doesn’t try his hardest. He amazes me with his skill, far more than I ever had, his competitiveness, trash talking, and his ability to turn it off when appropriate. Yes, now he still will play a game with his Dad, not because it is a challenge, not because our skills are equal but because it is still fun to beat Dad, still fun to show me how good he is and still fun to hang out together. It may just be a game, but it mirrors life, as we watch our children go from a blank slate to one that masters skills and learns how to be successful. So, every time I get the opportunity to lose a game to my son, I thank God for the time together and the opportunity to see him succeed.